Creative Couples Games for Better Sex in Your Love Life
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Is sexual boredom the proverbial elephant in your bed? Routine, vanilla sex can become a BIG problem most couples just want to ignore. We all hope it’ll get better like it used to be. Great sex is extremely important to your relationship. With a bit of creativity, you can easily get the sizzle back in your love life.
So fire up your creative energy and sexual desire – choose to be a dragon in your pleasure den and chase boredom out of your bedroom. With a simple creativity technique, you’ll discover how to heat up the passion and lust in your relationship and become a more exciting lover. Together, you can satisfy your cravings for novel sexual thrills and erotic adventure. It’s time to step out of your comfort zone to try something fresh and experience new tantalizing pleasures for both your mind and body.
Great sex is not just physical. We all need to stimulate our emotions and our imagination. Everyone wants the thrill of doing something wild, naughty and new. Even if you think you’ve tried everything before, try them again but add a twist. For instance, the missionary position is an old favorite for most couples. It’s intimate and comfortable in bed. Now try it on the front lawn in the morning dew – just a little more exciting.
One of the easiest ways to come up with something new and different is to randomly combine multiple ideas. Then see how you can make them work together. You’ll be amazed how your mind can take seemingly weird combinations and make sense of them. Even if the ideas appear totally unrelated, give it a chance and they will trigger new thoughts you can use. Let’s get your creative juices flowing so you can surprise each other with novel ideas that will reinvigorate your love life.
To start this couples game, consider that elements of great sex can be grouped into six categories:
- Sensual Accessories: think of your drawer full of sex toys – do you use the vibrator, glass dildo or butt plug tonight? How about lingerie or a costume – lacy, silky, leather or latex? Do you break out the bondage equipment tonight? How many pleasuring accessories do you have in your drawer, closet or refrigerator?
- Settings & Themes: location, style, mood, fantasy and role play. Your sexual desire can range from a sensual massage one day to a wild quickie in an elevator the next. Will you make love in bed, on the kitchen table, on the stairs or the back seat of a car? Will she role play as a French maid, an escort or a dominatrix?
- Foreplay Ideas for Him: there are so many pleasure points to focus on besides the obvious one of course. How many male hot spots and stimulation techniques can you think of?
- Foreplay Ideas for Her: think of using your lips, tongue, fingers and other body parts to lovingly caress and sensually explore all her luscious curves. How many of her erogenous zones have you pleasured recently? Are you missing or neglecting any?
- Sex Play Activities: sex play may involve multiple positions as you build arousal – it’s more than just intercourse. There are so many imaginative positions and variations to experiment with. Manual and oral pleasuring also adds to the fun.
- The Climax: consider how you will finish your sex session. What position or activity will result in orgasm – hand job, vibrator, intercourse, oral or anal sex? Will you both drift off to sleep, wash up for work or try to rev up for more?
With your partner, create a list of ideas for each category. Create separate lists if you like. Search through you closets, drawers and all around the house for sexy items you could play with. List all the sex positions, role play characters, fantasy scenarios, locations, etc., that you can imagine. If you need an extra source of inspiration, flip through some sex books.
Once you come up with your lists of naughty ingredients, you need a way to randomly choose a few for your erotic recipe. You could write them on slips of paper and pick them from a bowl. Or number each item and pick them by rolling dice or random number generators online. Just remember to keep each grouping separate. By mixing and matching an idea from each group together, you’ll have all the elements required for a night of frisky fun.
Flip a coin to see who goes first. Starting with the first category, randomly pick one of the ideas. Then alternate picking from each group until you both have 3 ideas each. Now the fun part – brainstorm a creative sex scenario to perform that incorporates all six ideas together. Then let the ideas lead you to some amazing sex experiences.
A fun twist is to choose the list of ideas in the morning then go off separately and work out your own variation for the evening. Write out a fantasy story line with all the juicy details then swap notes. See how close your ideas are then pick one to play out. You could also try to merge the two scenarios.
Keep the lists handy for more creative love games later. You can also randomly select a few yourself and surprise your partner with wild combinations of pleasure possibilities. It’s really that easy. Sex doesn’t have to be spontaneous. With planned random sex and a little imagination, you’ll enjoy more creative loving. Give it a whirl. Your sex life will never be the same again – it’ll be much more fun. Just remember, with all your bedroom games, leave your lover satisfied but always wanting more.
Creative sex sounds great but I can imagine what you’re thinking – you’d rather be making love instead of writing long lists of erotic ideas to choose from. Well, as they say, “There’s an App for that!” Available for the iPhone and iTouch, iLoveRandomSex gives you the sexy ideas and randomizes them for you too. Inspire your erotic creativity and start having better sex in your love life. Join the discussion and get more frisky ideas on the Random Sex blog.
Naughty by Nature – Erotic Adventure Game for Couples
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A walk with your partner in a natural setting is a great way to unwind and reconnect. The tranquility of a park, meadow, forest or even a mountain trail will relax you both. Take time alone together to share and discuss your thoughts. While these moments with the one you love can be very romantic, it’s also a great opportunity to let nature inspire your lust for each other. You may even find a secluded location to satisfy your natural desires.
Even if you don’t want to unleash your passion outdoors, you can still let your imagination run wild with erotic ideas. Even if other people are walking around, you can secretly exchange clues to what you’re thinking. You’ll smile with a naughty grin as you point out interesting sites to each other.
Challenge each other to find as many erotic shapes or images as you can – anything that remotely reminds you of sex. This will help you focus on the natural beauty (yeah any excuse will do). You’d be amazed how many details you pick out when sex is on your mind. Your playfully naughty thoughts are like mental foreplay. You’ll be racing to your bedroom when you get home.
Make your erotic adventure more interesting by keeping score. Agree on who found the most interesting one or who finds the most to declare a winner. The winner receives a sexual favor or gets to play out a favorite fantasy. For this erotic couples game all you need is a dirty mind. Gaze at the clouds, notice interesting knots in the trees, search out insects mating, forage for ideas in the flowers or uncover manhood shaped mushrooms. Boulders, crevices, leaves and even tracks in the sand can trigger naughty ideas and arousing associations.
You can even find lewd locations to make love when no one is around. Describe when, how and what you could do in full erotic detail. Paint a mental picture of your sexy scene and see if you can resist ripping your clothes off and going for it right then and there.
Take a digital camera with you and capture nature in all its explicit glory. Collect sets of erotic pictures and organize them into a sexy slide show. Create DVDs to remember your outings together. You can watch your naughty nature shows years later. You’ll be amazed how fondly you recall the times you shared exploring your erotic nature together.
Here are a few samples of natural beauty that my wife snapped. See if you can tell what we were thinking.
Take any chance you can to enjoy nature together – any reason will do. It really is a great way to enhance your relationship whether you think naughty thoughts or not. Just holding hands and enjoying the fresh air and sunshine can be extremely rewarding. But who says romantic games can’t be erotic too.
Intimate Questions – A Relationship Game for Couples
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Whether you’re just starting to date or you’re in a long term relationship, couples need to talk with each other more. We need the emotional connection you get when expressing your thoughts and feelings to someone who actively listens and cares. Intimate conversations with the person we love give us a deeper understanding of each other’s desires, fears, hopes and dreams. Although we may feel vulnerable revealing intimate secrets about ourselves, sharing and exploring sensitive subjects together builds trust in your relationship and strengthens the bond with your partner.
A friend of mine is currently trying to find a woman to start a relationship with. He is exploring online dating but he expressed a common frustration. It’s actually the same kind of problem couples in long term relationships experience when they think they know each other:
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“What do I talk about?”
Most online dating sites attempt to get couples communicating online first, then via phone calls then in person. When you think about it, married couples are in a similar situation when either one is away for some reason – they can only communicate via phone or email. It can actually be liberating since many people can express themselves more openly this way. You may feel freer to discuss more sensitive and intimate subjects like love and sex. It’s an excellent opportunity to explore new interests and discuss creative ways to spice up your relationship.
But the question still remains: What do you talk about? Also, how do you bring up more sensitive subjects that you want to explore but are either too shy or afraid to talk about? Here is a simple relationship game I suggested to my friend. Buy a book on relationships, romantic ideas or even a sex guide. While on a phone date suggest playing a game and describe these simple rules:
- Inform your partner about a book you have or let them select from a short list
- Ask for a number between 1 and the number of pages in the book
- Scan the page and read a section you find interesting or describe a picture
- They then ask you a provocative question related to what you read
- You answer the question and discuss the response then ask your own question
Your questions may end up being funny, intimate or serious. Some may even make you squirm in your seat as you face your own thoughts and feelings. Here are some benefits of using the book as the basis of your intimate questions:
- You don’t control the topics so when sensitive subjects do come up you don’t need to censor yourself
- You will come across subjects you may conveniently avoid even thinking about but are important
- By playing the game, you are both in a more open frame of mind and ready to discuss sensitive ideas
The book provides the context around your discussion and may even provide more information or resources to help explore it in more detail.
I recommended the book 237 Intimate Questions Every Woman Should Ask a Man
Here are some other sources of information to stimulate your question and answer sessions:
- 1000 Questions for Couples
- 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets
- The Guide to Getting It On!
- 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed
- 227 Ways to Unleash the Sex Goddess Within
- 1001 Ways to Be More Romantic Than Ever
Please use my affiliate links if you are interested in purchasing any of these products.
This relationship game for couples is great for when you want more intimate ideas to talk about on the phone. They are even better when you are together in a playful or romantic mood. Play it as a bedroom game – building your emotional connection while thinking and talking about erotic ideas can lead to some amazing sex.
One caution: when sharing secret thoughts and details with each other, start slow as you increase your levels of trust in each other. Keep the questions light hearted and focus on relationship building questions rather than any subtle or implied accusations. Also listen intently to your partner with an open mind – you are playing this game to better understand each other and develop a deeper emotional connection.
We look forward to hearing about your experience playing this relationship game or any fun & interesting questions you have asked your partner. Please leave a comment to share with other couples.